When I realised it was anti-bullying week, I couldn't miss up the opportunity to discuss it and raise

Twitter Troll.
A troll, which personally is a masked name for an online bully. I was initially pretty shocked that someone chose to target me, because I'm just me, they can't really gain anything from doing so - but I soon realised bullys don't want to gain anything but gratification and power, they feel by forcing their words and thoughts on to you, it somehow diminishes you and raises them, however I feel it's quite the opposite. Now, I could place cold hard cash on the fact my troll will read this, and then make more vile comments. The troll began befriending me, shared interests and outrages with me and would regularly interact quite friendly, soon enough I noticed her feed was full of a lot of venom directed at others, so I chose to ignore any further comments as personally I didn't want to communicate with someone capable of such behaviour. And sure enough, when I wasn't interacting, the hate began, I'm guessing as she thought this would be the next way to gain my attention. I ignored the comments about my sons name, the fact we allowed Noah to holiday with his grandparents being compared to Madeline Mccann, that I was a selfish mother, I moaned about my children, I don't deserve them, I shouldn't have 'spawned' life, abusive names which I wont pollute my blog with. It all reeled in, night after night, I couldn't even tweet that I was taking Noah to have his flu vaccine without poisonous comments. Of course this person was blocked, but when a bully is intent on causing hurt and destruction, not much will stand in their way. Then people began to reach out to me, explain their experiences with the bully, and suddenly, I didn't feel so alone, in fact I felt incredibly strong. Having a strong support network of friends and family I could discuss the situation with, made me realise, that if anything what she was doing was her problem, not mine. It was sad, I began to feel incredibly sorry for the girl and continue to rise above it, even when I'm shown daily the things that are still being said - including the fact she knows where I live (Very worrying). However, I do think people who bully really need to look to themselves, I think if they pushing so much venom out, they must be quite sad and angry people who truly are not worthy of your time. Which brings me to Instance two.
The fake friend

I posted these two situations, to show that bullying really does happen anywhere and anytime, you don't have to be a child to be bullied, nor do you have to be someones 'enemy'. No one really knows why bullys target people the way they do, but it's incredibly important to see the problem is not with you, it lies with them. Although a lot of the time, bullys do like to play victims in circumstances, as they try to avoid responsibility for their own bad behaviour by blaming the target for causing it. I do feel it's important to share posts like this, to raise awareness as bullying is still so rife in all walks of life.
They just sound so jealous of your life! Idiots.sorry you've been at the brunt of other people's misery x
ReplyDeleteGreat post. I have a 'friend' exactly like the one you mentionned - exhausting, aren't they? Well done for standing up to them and for raising awareness of different types of bullies! Hayley x
ReplyDeleteBoth horrible creatures. You have done well to rise above them. I had to laugh at you should have seen the warning signs cos she was a Brexiteer. Haha, how bloody true!
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